About the Author

Almost eight years ago, I became a member of a fellowship group with two other Christian men. Perhaps it wasn’t a coincidence that we formed the group a few months after the death of my mother. As I write this, it only now occurs to me how great and excellent God’s timing is. I can say now that a few months after my mother’s death, I was still hurting, but I had pushed that hurt and pain deep down. It’s what society expects us to do as men: strong and stoic at all times. It took me over a year to throw away the organic soups I used to buy for my mother from Whole Foods. It took even longer to give away some of her clothes and personal items.

There were a few other changes that year: I had just moved into a new home. I felt that I needed a change of scenery. My mother had been living with me through her illness and passed away peacefully at home one night. I was also just over a year into a new job and had recently received a promotion that required more travel and more responsibility. Life comes, and you keep moving, or you get run over, right? 

Over the almost eight years I’ve been part of the fellowship, I’ve healed from my mother’s death, lost and gained jobs, rebuilt my finances, and achieved goals that I had set for myself. I learned that it’s okay to be honest and open about my fears, hopes, and dreams. I realized that accountability is necessary for growth. So often, we ask others to pray for us, hoping that our circumstances will change. However, as one of my fellowship partners once asked me, “What are YOU doing to change your situation?” I learned all these things while discovering more and more about myself and my fellowship partners. 

This modest book recounts my experiences within the fellowship. It’s also meant to serve as a guide to help you establish your own fellowship. Men are called to serve special roles within the body of Christ. But to be effective in those roles, we need to be emotionally and spiritually healthy. I hope this book will be of some help in that journey.